ended up getting the flashing program working... had to leach and install WinPcap 4, shutdown the fon, connect the eithernet, setup the flashing files and then put the power to it... it will take around 10-15 mins but it works. Now the problem that I am having is that the password that I setup dosen't match the one the fon (LOL OMG). I have flashed it about 10 times literally and still have not reset the password and can not telnet into it... man I feel like such a noobie and after all of this... the wireless was not working either.....
any ideas for a now bald person who has pulled out their hair trying to get it back up and running.
the software I have used to telnet/ssh is putty and also telnet with XP.... I know that this maybe a big black mark for saying what I have used but oh well.