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Killnkenny

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    ^ Pretty much says it all. Respect your children, be a parent, not a spy and someone they will not be able to trust or look up to. Being as you are NOT her parent, let the mother raise the kid, decide what/how to handle it, offer support, but this seems WAY extreme in a means to an end on trying to help. What kid HASN'T done things they aren't supposed to do growing up? Educating them on the dangers of the internet and other such things such as date rape, etc, good deal, all for that. Spying on them and abusing their trust for people they should look up to as role models, who want to teach them by doing something like breaking into their devices and monitor them, NO. All you will do is make them learn to trust no one, including you. Find a better solution. As a parent myself, I'm surly going to be worried when my girls reach the age of dating, talking to people online, etc, but that's a parents place to be there for the kids and teach them about these dangers. Rebellion is to be expected. They're kids. We were no different. Using "scare tactics" and even breaking into their phone, devices, etc, sounds more damaging to the child than helpful in this instance. If you want to learn how to do those things, plenty of online resources for it, but if you're serious about trying to "help" a child/young adult, then this is not the best course of action, and I gather most here would probably feel the same way, but thats just my 2 cents.

    Thank you for sharing your opinion.

    Taking privacy serious and like I have said is that we won't spy, we use it when its needed in case of emergency.

  2. u dont trust her and u want to monitor her 24hr ...u just want to get android monitoring software...

    No not 24hr, I'm not going to check on her because of just some suspicious behavior, only for emergency's if she is does it again, so we can trace her when needed, looking into her text messages were she is going to and who. Because she dates with unfamiliar boys a-crossed the country, like yesterday we only knew what city she went to (after discovering on her girlfriends phone, she left it home), we had a name and checked on google so we managed to know were that guy plays soccer, so we called the soccer club for a phone number of the parents of that boy and this proces cost us 3,5hours without succes. We had a phone number of that boy aswel and he pick-up the phone and trying to ask if the girls are there and he just turn off the phone and saying nothing(when the girls were with him).

  3. Hi Ken,

    This all depends on where you live. What country are you from? A city would be even better because some apps work alot better depending on this due to GPS programming for certain areas.

    Greetings,

    mw3demo

    The Netherlands, city doesn't matter here, it's small :P.

    @Cooper:

    Bedankt voor je mening, ik heb echt serieuze en meerdere malen toe gesprekken erover gehad. Juist ook met dit soort dingen en ze reageert alsof ze het allemaal maar weet en ondanks dat ik objectiever de vragen neerleg voor het, ook wat jij bedoelt met "planning" en wat ze nou doet in bepaalde situaties heeft ze geen antwoord erop behalve "ik weet niet" of "gewoon". Ik vraag dit ook niet voor niets en de reden waarom ik juist deze stap neem is juist om te laten zien dat alles ook gepland kan worden zonder dat ze het doorheeft, ik welke mate moeten we nog goed bedenken, we hebben talloze serieuze gesprekken gehad waarop haar (uiteindelijke) antwoorden ook nog eens deels gelogen waren, ze neemt het tot op zekere hoogte niet serieus.

    Als jullie denken dat alleen praten echt kan helpen geef ik jullie echt ongelijk, bij sommige kinderen helpt dat inderdaad en is het genoeg, maar helaas is het in dit geval niet zo en moet zij het ervaren (op een controlerende manier, praktijk gericht) om het punt te begrijpen. Geloof me als ik zeg dat ik niets liever had gewild dat het met praten opgelost kan worden.

    Je hoeft niet bang te zijn dat we heer gemeen behandelen of straffen, valt echt mee. Maar 1 ding heb ik wel meegekregen en dat als dat elk kind uniek is en er geen handleiding ervoor bestaat.

    Kijk, dat ze dingen stiekem doet enzovoorts dat hoort erbij en prima, maar er zijn grenzen en wat we allemaal al meerdere malen hebben besproken neemt ze niet mee. Hiermee doel ik op kennis op gebied van menselijke aspecten in de zin van goed en kwaad.

    Ik ben ervan bewust dat ik hiermee het "vertrouwen" tussen mij en haar serieus op de proef wordt gesteld, maar ben overtuigd dat dit plan een goed leermoment is, of ze het leuk vindt of niet, bij haar werkt praktijk ervaring gewoon erg goed.

    Maarja, dat is een verschil tussen mensen en gelukkig laten mensen zien waarom ik overtuigd van mezelf ben, mensen hebben hier al een vooroordeel en dat bevestigen zij ook nog, je kan het normaal vragen maar niet gelijk een ander van iets uitmaken, uiteindelijk ben ik diegene dat rot geschrokken is en er zit nog wat geschiedenis eracht en in een paar woorden: Bio-vader is van buitenlandse afkomst en zit in de criminele scene dus het is juist van belang dat ze dit stuk heel goed begrijpt en als ik de "boosdoener" moet zijn om door te kunnen komen dan doe ik dat, zodat ik in ieder geval haar de ervaring heb kunnen geven dat het echt slecht had kunnen aflopen om zomaar met jongens af te spreken zonder dat ze hun goed kent, naast dat ze 11 jaar is.

    Cooper! Damnit. Was trying to do some social engineering. I was going to post this:

    "This all doesn't sound right, and is very suspicious. Your post screams at me that you are a peadophile. I have never heard of such a horrendous situation as a step father and his friend kidnapping a girl from another mother "teaching some skills and don't lie to us".

    I dated girls when I was 6 and onwards. You know what we did? Held hands, laughed and watched TV oh the shock horror. If I heard my wives new partner kidnapped my girl, I would find you and show you what kidnapping is all about, you would beg me to end it. What the hell is wrong in that sick twisted head of yours? Go get some help."

    Edit: Either this guy is a peadophile, or is actually a 11 year old himself. Out of curiosity though, how come you replied to him in Dutch Cooper? Anyways $5 says he doesn't reply.

    Edit 2: Just looked at his post again and saw that he mentioned he was Dutch.

    It's not "kidnapping" in a way of pulling a bag on her head or something, more in a way of showing here that in reality people cannot be trusted without some basic understanding of life itself. What I mean is getting a fake date with and when she goes there without telling us anything and doesn't picking up her phone in purpose for asking where she was and she knows that we are more interested if she is safe instead the punishment she will get.

    Besides that, she is a girl and understanding the way you are writing tells me you don't have children neither a girl.

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    Anyway, you don't have to take me seriously and I'm not asking for it. But say something that makes sense please instead calling me a peadophile like a 10 year old.

  4. Before I'm asking what kind of help I need, My name is Ken and 26 year old and I'm a dutchman (sorry for the English), I know some basics of computers and I'm asking this for the safety of (I see her as) my daughter, her mom is a really good friend of me.

    She crossed the line today as in "parents way", her 11 years old daughter is "dating" in secret without knowing the basic "aspects of life", like "internet dangerous in general" and "what we see as reality". We are trying to understand when she is ready for these things and we think we know it when we think when she is ready for it.
    So, I had a plan and the best place I think is everybody here.

    Plan:
    I'm going to organize a "kidnapping" scene, to be short: Asking a boy in my family or friends that can help me out here and trying to get a date with the daughter and trying to make it "real" as possible, asking for a "date" when she has to step in a train to go to him and when she will arrive and walks the next corner of a building we will wait there for her and her girlfriend (she was smart to go with a girlfriend of her) so we can show her it can be really dangerous, teaching some skills and don't lie to us, we are openminded but she still lies and stealing money too. Also teaching safety for sex etc.

    Help:
    Because this situation happend yesterday, I need a program for breaking into her android phone.
    and
    Program on the background of her phone and laptop(windows), so I can monitor her on my laptop when needed for her safety.
    like GPS tracing etc.

    examples
    Phone:
    http://www.tomsguide.com/us/pictures-story/596-best-parental-control-apps.html
    Top 10 apps

    Laptop:

    http://www.spectorsoft.com/home-solutions.html?vwo=homegate

    The reason asking this is is because I want softwares that I can thrust and to do so many research is a big job and maybe there is a better solution for this, asking you guys!

    Any ideas or tips etc. to pull this off would be great/welcome!

    Thank you for your time!

    Greetings Ken

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